Had some tough discussions over the course of the past week separately with three friends. These people are among my circle of friends but wouldn't call them my closest friends. These folks hadn't been exactly supportive during the last while. Examples are snarky comments at get-togethers about my career, looks, weight, food and exercise. These comments were not in the spirit of "tough love" which I am always open to, but these were put-downs designed to hurt.
Normally I wouldn't dream of being so confrontational or even think of addressing these issues... I'd just let it go... Letting these people just fade out of my life. But I've made a commitment to cleaning up and improving my life from top to bottom, in and out. I have to take a stand.
I confronted them with some concrete examples like, During the evening, you said ____ and that really hurt my feelings.
I was hoping for an acknowledgement of past behaviour and a willingness to put it in the past and start fresh. Two did admit to bitchiness, we exchanged apologies and we're moving forward.
With the other, it was a difficult conversation, she felt I was being unreasonable so I said: If that's how you feel, I wish you all the best and hope things work out for you.
Life is too short. Really. Deciding to keep positivity in my life is the easiest decision I've ever made.