Monday 20 January 2014

When your partner in crime is struggling

This weekend was good and bad. I'd rather get the bad out first... so my man has some weight to lose too, probably about 30-40lbs or so. While I've been making my changes towards a healthy and more fit way of living, he still has many of his old habits, especially when it comes to food, mainly he eats extra large portions. On Saturday he brought "treats" into the house. Cookies, ice cream and candy. My cardinal rule is that if you really really want a treat, you go out for it, get a small portion and it doesn't cross the threshold. 

He said that he bought the stuff to eat while watching the football games and  because he went into the grocery store hungry and wanted to eat everything in there... Hmmmm.... Let's just say I had to call him out on that one so we sat down for a couple of hours and talked about what is really going on. He tends to keep a lot of emotions bottled up, but we eventually got down to the nitty gritty: it was an issue at work and had some fears cropping up. I was able to offer some possible solutions and he was able to tell me what he needed from me.  This is what people mean when they say the key to a long-lasting relationship is hard work and lots of communication

The good was on Sunday, when it was still mild enough for us to take a long walk before the deep freeze. We wanted to do a healthy outdoors activity together and when it started to snow we acted like a couple of kids and made  some snow angels... Awwwww! LOL  Then we tackled some indoor house organizing, the usual chores, and prepping meals for the week... yep back to reality.

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  1. Hi Nikki, I think it's so interesting how guys and some women group around the tv set to watch very athletic guys--while getting their own selves fatter! I've never understood this! When I watch football, it makes me want to be slim and fit! I see those slim adult guys who do all sorts of crazily athletic things as role models. Yet people get fat watching football games. Our culture is so weird about things like this!

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    1. I agree Marion, it is odd. Here in Canada, there is the Grey Cup in the Fall and in the Winter many, like my man and his buddies, also watch the Superbowl... a double whammy :) Maybe many armchair quarterbacks don't think they can achieve that kind athleticism (or anywhere even near that level) so why try in the first place? That's sad actually.

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  2. Marion, you must not be looking closely; half of those NFL players are linesmen weighing over 250-300 pounds. LOL

    Nikki, good job on the communication end! :)

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    1. Wasn't one of those guys nicknamed the Pot Roast? LOL
      Thanks Gwen, it's not always wine and roses but it is worth the effort ;)

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  3. I agree that the communication thing is key....good job. My significant other is finally starting to take care of himself.....he has finally stated some goals that he has and he is working on them....I try to be supportive and helpful without too much nagging....

    We have really changed our football watching snack choices.....it's not easy but we manage.

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